I can identify with wanting my T to satisfy my unmet attachment needs. I've been frustrated with 4 ts who never thought it would help to meet those needs. I am fortunate that my current T thinks otherwise. Within limits, she loves me and allows me to hold her hand and to hug her. I think her methods are working better than my T who wouldn't hug me because "you're borderline." Getting some of what I crave from my T enables me to tolerate what I can't get from her.