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Old Mar 29, 2016, 04:51 PM
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Originally Posted by Trippin2.0 View Post
Just because we have feelings doesn't mean we should act on them.


I felt sad, lonely, heart broken when i left my ex, but imagine I acted on those feelings and took him back? The guys who mistook me for a punching bag.


I sometimes used to feel the urge to burn down my house, with my family in it (but not my daughter) imagine I had acted on those feelings?


Sometimes I feel like high fiving people.... in the face... With a chair, because they're bloody annoying.

Imagine I acted on those feelings?


Sometimes, well alot of times, I feel like running away from my life and everyone in it, imagine I acted on that feeling.


Yes, your feelings are all valid, even if they are incomprehensible, but there's no rule that states you have to act on them.


At this point, if I were in your shoes, I would draw up a pros and cons list and make my decision based on it's outcome. That way I would know I'm behaving in a rational, logical manner, and that my choice probably (usually definitely) won't backfire.


But, to each their own, sometimes some people must just make their own mistakes instead of listening to the wise warnings of others. It's the only way they learn.

Trauma makes it more difficult than if it just was not to act on feelings that has no trauma in it. I dont act in any other things in my life either. I know you are right in what you say. Maybe pros and cons can help me look at it another way.