How does he "still taunt you everyday?" Do you receive phone calls, texts or messages via social media from him? If so, that may not be the healthiest arrangement. What advice does your counselor give you?

I have a little different take on the "blame" issue than the replies above. I am not real accepting of the notion that, in order to feel good about ourselves, we have to see ourselves as innocent of any responsibility for what we have gone through in life, as adults. IMHO, that can be a disempowering way of looking at things. Instead, I see you as having come to a point where you understood that you didn't have to keep accepting what you had been allowing. That led to your victory in liberating yourself from the circumstance you were in.

I left a man after having spent 7 years tolerating him coming home drunk all the time. I was so grateful to myself for coming to understand that leaving was an option and taking that option. I did sometimes think that I should have gotten to that place sooner. But I decided that it took as long as it took for me to make the move I made. Unhappy experience is still experience, and we are the wiser for having had it. It allows us to truly "know" what we come to know.

The longer that you were with this man, the bigger your victory in leaving.