You value ambition, nothing wrong with wanting a partner with a similar drive as you. For many of us, ambition, motivation, tenacity, is very admirable and it can even be a thing of beauty, watching it unfold.


That's how I feel when I see my bf and how hard he's working his butt off to reach his goals and realize his dreams.


My ex? Hmmmmm, Not so much, it was painful watching him just exist, all the while talking big.


Things went sour for other reasons though (he became abusive) but I always knew deep down that I could never settle down with someone who's core values and characteristics are so vastly different than mine. I knew I would grow to resent him and label him lazy.


So no, you're not asking too much, BUT, you're asking it from the wrong man.


If he sees no need to dream bigger, then you can't force him to, you could encourage, motivate, and maybe even suggest working toward a shared goal, but you can't make him be someone he's not.


You knew who and what he was before you married him, you knew fundamental things about him bugged you, yet you married him anyway.


The way I see it, accept him as is, you thought he was good enough to marry, you chose him. So accept and embrace him. He's not doing anything wrong by being different to you.


Disclaimer to all readers:

Please note my reply does not refer to lazy leeching couch potato partners.