I too have gone through a divorce. It is degrading and leaves you questioning your ever wanting to be with someone again. Counseling is a definite and i recommend it. It usually takes two years after a divorce to get to know who you are as a single person again. Then you develope new likes and change for the better. It is a risk to go out with someone else for the fear of failure is strong. To go right out after a divorce and before you are ready is on the rebound and spells disaster with a capitol D. I say, take your time after talking to a therapist. It should be mutual attraction, friendship, trust, love, then sex. tc