Thank you so much for sharing this...so much.

Yes, I believe anger to be a secondary emotion and that the root of the real hurt, frustration or fear must be addressed to manage the anger and forgive, move on, etc.

Thank you as well for laying it out step by step.

I just appreciate this so much and can relate to it greatly having been there. I'm now working on CLEAR BOUNDARIES to avoid (as much as is in my control) future episodes. I'm further working on being able to say, "he/she (in my family) didn't mean that. it's their illness speaking." Examining the roots of my feelings/reactions has helped that so much.

What a journey you've shared and I appreciate it.

KD