But even when men write something other than flirting, still many women don't reply. So, I'm not sure if the content of the message is that important. I'm not sure even how women select the men to respond to. A girl responded to me 4-5 times, and then she stopped for no obvious reason. So, the whole game is very frustrating for men. We read many profiles, and try to form a good message, yet we get nothing, and if we get something, it turns to nothing later. Not to discourage you or anything, but I quit online dating sites already. They take too much time with virtually no results.