I also know what the definition of gaslighting is. I know what I said. I know what I posted and I know what I am referring to when I post. I meant what I said when I posted and it is relevant to the original post. How you take it is not my problem. We can and will agree to disagree, and I will rest just as easily as you that we are disagreeing and are unable to reach a compromise.

Historically, I have always liked your posts and I get much from them, and I know that our disagreement will not change that, but it will also not make me feel that I have to compromise how I feel, just as I'm pretty sure that it won't make you change how you feel or think. I also know that I don't always agree with your posts, and I often just walk away from them because I don't want to disagree or get into an argument. But in this case, as much as I HATED the language of the stupid therapist in the article and his description of the "client", I hated even more the thought of him sticking with the client and making her feel small, inadequate, sick, violent and unsalvagable. I wanted her to have something better and the only way she could have that is if the stupid arse therapist referred her out. Sure she didn't want that to happen (we abused clients think that whatever scraps are thrown our way is "good enough), but then if you don't feel abused or victimized, you might not feel that but it's a reality for many people who have been traumatized.

Thanks for talking about the issue rationally and without malice and name calling. Take care.