My T used to do those things. Tell me she loves me, and occasionally sign her Emails with "Love, T". Then all that stopped. Took me awhile to realize it....and when I asked her, she said the same as your T did. That's reserved for her private life, and to say it would not be "genuine." Ok..... but then she slipped up two weeks after saying that and said "I love you" when she hugged me. I didn't say anything or make a big deal out of it, but I felt honored. This all happened last spring/summer. Fairly recently I was having a vulnerable moment and I asked her if she loved me. Her answer was that she cared a great deal for me. Then, later that day, I got an Email from her, telling me she felt "bullied" by me, for trying to "get her" to say those words. I still haven't gotten over that awful feeling that she felt bullied. But I feel love for her, and sometimes, once in awhile, I want to say it. I know I won't get anything back, but I feel like saying it. Then I remember her bully comment and figure she may feel pressured, or that I'm pressuring her to say it back if I say it. I don't expect an "I love you too" anymore....but I do fight the urge sometimes to tell her I love her. Sometimes I want to ask her if it's ok to feel love for her, or will she just see it as transference or non genuine? If I knew how screwed up I'd get in therapy I never would have started it! Ok....very late for me, off to bed. But sometimes I still wish she'd 'slip up' again and say it.