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Originally Posted by Argonautomobile
As for whether a T (or anybody else, really) knows best...This is a sticky, ambivalent issue for me, too. Because, yes, it IS patronizing and paternalistic and all the rest. And I certainly don't think it's true that most (or even many) T's know what's best for most (or even many) clients....But, you know, is it so odious to say that maybe sometimes they do?
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In the article the professionals have decided what constitutes abandonment and what is best for the client, pretty much unequivocally. Abandonment is defined as a clinical concept. That's insane. If the client
feels abandoned, they
were abandoned. I would NEVER let a T decide anything
for me. They can decide
with me.
Therapists in my experience believe they can define reality for others. It is the essential therapist arrogance and delusion of omniscience. My ex T and others tried this. They said I was not abandoned in crisis. Oh no, it was an "ethical" termination. They defined ethical for me.
As Psychologist Dorothy Rowe said: "The most dangerous people in the world are those who believe that they know what is best for others. Whenever our own truth is denied, ignored, or invalidated we experience the greatest fear we can ever know: the threat of the annihilation of the self".
That was my experience. Feel traumatized by it still.