its the plight of gettig married too young. there is that time in your 20s when you explore life, figiue out what you want and who you are, and obviously taking advantage of your youth by being with different people. of course when youre with someone for a long time, you cant help but wonder about all that stuff you didnt get to do. but the distinguishing factor is, do you feel like you are missing that or want in on that action? or are you truly unhappy ? that's the kind of analysis that should be done through counseling, there's nothing better than an objective professional person to give you clarity.

i've seen both sides: women get caught in this idea that marriage is blissful and thats what they want & once they get it, they just give up and feel and act like they shouldn't work at maintaining their marriage. men are guilty of it too. routine is a relationship killer. but being single in your 30s is no cake walk either . thats my category, there's nothing like dating in the ever decreasing dating pool of good single people. especially online dating, at the end you're battling with what society expects (look at commercials, all centered around finding the oerfect person, having kids, having a nice car, somehow having a great social life with friends, looking great and fit)) vs. finding true influence-free happiness .

i say talk to a counselor before you take any action. .. wanting to be with someone else..& doing that will rip the heart out of your family. at least if you talk to someone first you can either cope with the mid life crisis or if its true unhapiness then cope with divorce in the least uprooting way.

on my case,i dated someone for 7 years from 22-29 and i was miserable. did what he wanted and lashed out. ever since then its been nothing but crappy relationships. i figured out that 7 years guy was not for me and i was only extending the pain of being incompatible, even worse my 20s was spent trying to make it work. we had a bond but no connection, he didnt make me happy and i didnt feel lile i had a true partner- an us versus the world relationship, i gave in to routine.once i figured out this person wasnt going to change i bailed. though, i spent the last 4 years finding that someone only to figure out 1) im getting older 2) most good people are taken 3) the perfect person doesnt exist. at the end you just try to find someone you get along with, wants the same stuff as you, share the same sense of humor . are you truly with the wrong person?

p.s. its healthy to be apart from your spoise, you dont need to be together all the time. you need that balance. if not itll tale your identity away and that can be soul crushing.