the pity card is sooo classic. its why he will pay 100% attention to you bc 1) hes looking to have sex with someone , anyone! other than his wife 2) its entertaining to him to feel the rush of doing something and getting away with it and that someone else is paying attention to him 3) he will never leave the wife . he's manipulating you, its why youre feeling the way you do. if he truly cared about you he wouldnt put you in the middle of this. youre attracted bc of the attention he gives you and the fact that youre pursuing something you cant have. you think and believe is that what you both may have is something genuine... but here's a dose if reality: its not. its a formula.

here is how you'll lose:
1. you'll figure out the hard way he wont ever leave
2. you'll waste your precious time on a true loser which means its less time you have to find someone mentally and emotionally stable and compatible with you= actual happiness
3. you'll feel like crap knowing you caused a lot of pain to another human being
4. you'll be labeled the skank who homewrecked & destroyed a family
5. you risk people finding out what you did and word will get around , bc once the wife finds out she will make someone pay and it'll be you. the guy will be forgiven bc a) he's a guy and b) she doesnt want to lose him and become lonely divorce(cant insert accent mark) 3) she doesnt want to break up the family
he wont lose, as in our society men dont wear the scarlet letter.
6) you'll become untrustworthy of men in future relationships, bc youll fear that they will do what you did in the past to others. then you'll misread signals with a good guy and destroy that telationship.

7) your self esteem will take a blow and that sets you up for dating nothing but losers, why? bc the married guy will become the standard of measure, thats just how your psyche works. and do you really want to set yourself up for more misery? you know what he will get? another kid from his wife, bc the kid will serve as a bandaid to their marriage... this stuff is just so formulaic. that or once hes conquered you, he will fade away or return to his wife, bc he got the sex with anyone else off the to-do list

i was with a guy who cheated on me and had like 3 kids with 3 women while i was with him... i got into a severe depression.. when i found out i yelled, literally pulled my hair out and dropped to the floor. a friend had to pick me up . i didn't move for hours. i transitioned to a bed and didn't move for 3 days... no water, no food, restroom 1x. it was the worst pain . felt like a fool. i exposed that ahole online and u know what that got me? feeling even worse about what he did, what i allowed to happen. what did he get? a girlfriend who remained with him after reading everything i posted and what 3 other women posted . whats the lesson? theres a fool for every one of these guys, but more importantly, the guy doesnt care about anyone but himself and you're just a pawn, he'll focus on you until his next move and youre expendable. whether he cheats on you or you help him cheat, its the same... you put yourself at risk of getting hurt, feeking like crap & he just goes on his merry way.

would just keep away from the guy or keep it distant and professional . those men are not good news at all. they dont care about anyone but themselves, you lose at the end. dont let him absorb you into his toxic world.

dont fall into the trap of thinking that its different with this guy. i tell you from experience and the fact ive met men who try to use the pity card . met a guy in college, grad school that tried to do that. have seen the destruction of relationships bc of that. even my boss tried to make a move on me, i flatly rejected him .. he had 2 kids subsequent to that... feelings my @ss.