Hello Firestorm2018: The Skeezyks' perspective with regard to this is that before you & Maria tie the knot, the two of you need to put this to rest once & for all. Maintaining a long-term marital relationship is difficult enough without something like this hanging over it. The Skeezyks dislikes making suggestions... but it seems to me that this is a situation that cries out for some in-depth pre-marital couples counseling. My best wishes to you...