Basically stop looking for anyone, just treat everyone as platonic and if there is a genuine interest you will feel it first as well as the other party. Just be yourself and if you are not interested just say so. Period, that simple. And don't worry about intimacy, cause trust and friendship is intimacy and that is required before a bond or relationship can develope. Be kind to yourself and stop agonizing over what may be, just enjoy today... cheer up tc