I turn it back onto the people that planted those inaccurate verbal onslaughts into my brain in the first place ... My toxic family of origin - especially the female parental unit.

I'll angrily tell her to SHUT UP or go EFF HERSELF when it starts up ...

It's amazing how quickly it removes the message from and about me right back to her - the very person that deserves it!

It's my understanding it will never completely go away, and we'll have to consistently challenge it throughout our lives, but by continuing to challenge those devaluing messages, we can certainly take the wind out of their sails to an eventual great extent.

We don't just grow up hating ourselves like this, it is definitely a learned behavior, so figure out who your bullies and abusers were and/or are and start giving them what for whenever they start up.

It really does help disarm them, if only for a while, but it is so empowering and a good feeling ...

It's as if you're now the adult standing up for that defenseless child that couldn't defend themselves way back when those messages were being installed.

Sincerely,
Pfrog!