I'm not personally a big fan of my T feeling things on my behalf. Not that he really does it, but therapy is not a place where I feel much like having to deal with other people's emotions in addition to my own. That said, I've read accounts (here and elsewhere) where people appreciated their T's feeling the things they could not. Especially in the context of abuse, it can be an essential exercise in reality-testing to have somebody else say "actually, yes, that was a really horrible thing that happened."

I'm sorry your T's reaction was confusing. I'd be confused too.