IMO, A T. surely needs to be right there with us when we are ready to 'walk the fire'. They should have a vigour that matches the seriousness of what we are talking about. So the importance is acknowledged. It seems such a lame response to ask if you are cold, - in those circumstances. He may have had an off moment, but I think, if his response when you bring it up is that he takes it appropriately seriously, then ok, but if he doesnt get the seriousness, can he be really healing for you to go there unsupported? As has been said already here..

good luck with this, its so hard to have to fight for ones needs when your already dealing with trauma!

riverx