I can appreciate what you’re saying about not being interested in a lot of these girls. Remember, we are social creatures even if we have social anxiety or depression. You bond with people based on communication. So, unless their profile is very inappropriate be careful about saying whether you would like them or not. A lot of times profiles are very misleading, and that one girl who didn’t say a whole lot may be a perfect match for you as well. The algorithm used on dating sites is notoriously bad for picking good mates. It’s that first meeting that will seal the deal.
I think the thing that stands out to me most about your post is your lack of confidence with women. I can appreciate that, but it’s one of those things that you have to work on to become comfortable. If you sit at the house, you will never get a cuddle buddy like you want. Also, do not automatically assume that because you are shy that a woman won’t love you or be interested in you. I think a lot of women are happy to have someone who is working on improving their mental status, but some women have had negative experiences with men with depression because they put no effort into getting treatment. They will quit taking their antidepressants or quit going to therapy and get far worse. If you can avoid that, then you will most likely be okay.
As far as something nice happening to you, you can bring about that without a woman. In fact, I would say you could bring about something nice happening today. I would encourage you to go out and make some friends. There are groups for pretty much any hobby under the sun, and it will help you develop social confidence. I think where a lot of people go wrong is focusing too much on getting a romantic relationship, and they neglect the basic social skills necessary for romantic relationships to develop. One step at a time and you will enjoy the journey!
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