I agree with this, as I think it's my issue right now. I'm so focused on getting a romantic relationship above all social relationships. I'm very conscious about this. That's why the last time I went to a meetup meeting at a bar I just talked intentionally with guys about soccer and manly stuff. It was fun. I didn't attempt to approach any girl, contrary to the previous meetings, although I had some prolonged and interesting chat with some of them. But it stopped right there. Some girls excused themselves, but that's OK. It's the nature of things.