Thanks ruh roh, well said.

It is very hard to find a therapist who won't blame the client and who can tolerate serious inquiry. I know, because I tried.

If long-term therapy ends abruptly and prematurely, there are bound to be many revelations in the aftermath. For me there was a several months' long process of internal debriefing and deprogramming. If you discover that T was subtly using you for her own gratification, many questions and some nasty feelings will arise.

If T refuses to engage you on this, and instead suggests you are to blame and she was "just trying to help", you are stuck with all the accumulated *****. The pent up feelings need a release, or they will turn into a tumor or self hate or whatever. So yea you are so right, people need an outlet to speak out where they will not be disparaged, but such places are almost non-existent. Even the literature is thin on this stuff. BTW, one of the few places I know of is Missbella's outstanding blog.

eta: I do think the temptation to engage in wholesale therapy-bashiing is a problem, but I think anyone whose experiences in therapy have been consistently bad enough for long enough will ultimately end up going there.