Hey. Thanks for explaining a bit more. I think I have a better understanding of the situation now.

So... He did it with good intentions. He thought that you would get through the week okay. He thought that if he didn't reassure you then you would reassure yourself and realise that you could reassure yourself and so... That would help you some.

But he misjudged how anxious you would feel. And he misjudged your ability to cope with that. And so... You ended up being retraumatised. Which isn't your fault, of course. But that is what happened.

> But he said himself that when he decided to do it he knew it would make me anxious.

I guess there are degrees of anxiety. I don't think he knew how much anxiety you would feel.

I guess that was why I wondered about DBT. Because one thing DBT is supposed to give you is some ability to self-soothe through hard times.