I'm sorry I don't know what DV is and it may have bearing on the rest of what I say. This sounds like a thoroughly abusive situation which is damaging to you. You may need to be very strong for your own sake, and report your therapist, and get official help in extricating yourself from the situation. There are other members of PC who have been in abusive situations who may be able to give you helpful advice and let you know who you can turn to. Know that you have our support in your difficulties.