Hi everyone hope all is well. Anyway it's been a month and a half since the girl I was obsessing over has been in a relationship. The people who have followed me during this time know that I fell for a younger woman and she didn't reciprocate. Of course my head is not where it should be because of my lack of a long term relationship over the course of my life. I'm still having very strong feelings for her and have an urge to see her - I know where she works and thought about going over and saying hi. I know this is a bad idea because I would probably tailspin (more than I am) but I having extreme difficulty in pushing her out of my system. The deal is we weren't really in a relationship it was just conversations over coffee and I took it to the extreme. Right now I'm scaring myself because I'm still in a lot of pain. I have talked to my therapist about this but that isn't enough. All I know is I'm too damn old for this (and probably her) and I'm hoping something doesn't break. Also there is this grinding in the pit of my stomach that won't stop! Boy do I need a hug and a close friend. Thanks.