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Originally Posted by CassyO
I agree about the fear of anger - I definitely have that. Its hard to see how something so destructive can be a positive thing. But also, I think perhaps its because to other people, the mistreatment we experienced was mistreatment. But to me - it was just normal. Its not out of the ordinary, and is an accepted - I don't know - way of life I guess. (An attitude reinforced by family). Maybe in order to feel anger, I first have to accept that my normality is not the norm - and that many other people experience a childhood so completely different to mine, it makes mine worthy of being at angry at. I haven't fully realised that yet, and so I don't have anything to be angry at yet.
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You've just put into words everything I've struggled to say to my T.
When she explained herself to me, I said "you're trying to help and I'm being vague." She instantly told me that I was very clear and that it's her that was wrong. And then she said what I'd written in my initial post.
I'm going to think about what you've said and if it applies to me as much as it does now, I'll talk to my T about it next session. Thank you
