online dating forces people to be superficial ... e.g. swiping pictures. though reasons i haven't responded 1) guy messages "hi" or "hey", that shows they didn't bother to read your profile so then you don't bother to read their profile and that's done 2) they use a template and you can tell because they make no mention of what they read about you, they use general descriptions like "interestingly "spectacular" ... so then you read their profile and can tell from the get go, no incompatibility, plus that's F'd up, you used your template on me, so you're mass fishing. 3) if you put restrictions like no smoking, allergic to cats, or I want to meet someone no more than 5 years over my age (yes the age gap matters, at least for me), they message you having those traits anyway.. to me that shows they're not looking for true compatibility 4) photos of shirtless men, men with guns, men with a dead deer, men smoking pot, bathroom selfies, men showing off their cars or jewelry. it just screams superficial and self involved...
. I've always put some funny meme or image as one of my photos, if the person gets my sense of humor, it's a great start.

it sounds like you're trying to get to know her so hopefully that shines through.