Hello madfam08: I see this is your first post here on PC... so... welcome to PsychCentral... from the Skeezyks! May you find the time you spend here to be of benefit.

I'm afraid I'm not a good person to comment with regard to your family's issues. I'm just a solitary old codger. Plus, when I was growing up years ago, I was an only child in a quite elderly extended family. So my experiences in dealing with issues surrounding family dynamics are limited. Hopefully some other members, here on PC, who have more experience than I with these sorts of problems will yet come along & reply to your post. I send my best wishes to you.