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Originally Posted by BudFox
He didn't elaborate at all? Seems odd. What comes to my mind is the idea of positive mirroring and attunement. In therapy though this kind of thing is weird to me, ambiguous. So I dunno...
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No, just talking. I think positive mirroring could help, but he doesn't do that.
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Originally Posted by divine1966
I really don't know as I don't struggle with self worth, but when I am confused on how something is supposed to help me then I ask. Could you ask your t what's helpful in having better self worth. Maybe not talking but something else?
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We talk about this all the time. We end up going off into tangents about other things. I know some things that I could do that could be helpful, but I'm so depressed I can't yet do the things that would help.
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Originally Posted by AllHeart
Talking about my self worth problems always made me feel worse because it wound up accentuating my negative thoughts, and then I'd wind up ruminating over how pathetic I was. Talking alone wasn't going to help me change my thought patterns. My t knew all of this and wouldn't let me talk but very little about my self loathing. Instead, she gave me a couple of quick, simple, mindfulness techniques to help change my thought patterns around this. They have really helped a lot. I still have a long way to go to improve but I've also come a long way from where I once was.
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((((AllHeart)))) I think I can find some things online about this as this isn't somewhere my T goes. I will look into this, thanks. I didn't have this problem before I got into therapy and got really depressed. It feels like the relationship with T makes me feel bad about myself, now that my core self is exposed, it feels like the relationship I had with my parents. He doesn't offer positive affirmations or show me affection like I read about other therapist. Doesn't tell me positive things. I feel so much shame all the time. I'm not sure that changing my thought patterns would help much.