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((((AllHeart)))) I think I can find some things online about this as this isn't somewhere my T goes. I will look into this, thanks. I didn't have this problem before I got into therapy and got really depressed. It feels like the relationship with T makes me feel bad about myself, now that my core self is exposed, it feels like the relationship I had with my parents. He doesn't offer positive affirmations or show me affection like I read about other therapist. Doesn't tell me positive things. I feel so much shame all the time. I'm not sure that changing my thought patterns would help much.
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I hear you. Shame has got to be one of the worst demons to contend with. Is it possible your t doesn't tell you positive things because you are not in a place to safely receive them? I was so lowly, down on myself, and full of shame I couldn't bear to hear anything positive (from t or anyone) because it was very upsetting to me and always rejected by me. But that was me. It's just a though that there may be a reason your t isn't providing you with positive things. Have you asked him about that at all?
Also, changing your thought patterns could help improve your self esteem. Instead of constantly beating yourself up with bad thoughts about yourself, you try to stop them dead in their tracks. If you want the quick techniques that my t taught me, let me know.
