Inspired by SarahSweden's recent thread: What made you lose trust in your T?
Trust can be risked; we can risk trusting someone, but eventually, for the trust to ongoing, a person has to earn it. My latest therapist is the only one I've ever trusted and I've only been seeing her since mid-January. Nevertheless, in the short time we've been seeing each other, she's earned it. Here's how:
1. She sets an alarm to let her know when the session has five minutes left. She asked my permission to use it first. Every session, when it goes off, she jumps two feet because she is so invested and focused in what I am saying that it jars her.
2. In sharing times that I have been hurt, even when I speak casually about the event, she has tears.
3. When I was mistreated by another psychiatric 'professional' and she found out, I found out she could cuss. She was visibly shaking with anger for me.
4. She looked me in the eyes and told me, "I believe you". I've seen too much insincerity in my life - I know sincere when I see it.
If you trust your T; what has he or she done to earn that trust?
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