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Originally Posted by lolagrace
In my experience, therapists learn a great deal from these joint sessions and it generally always confirms what we had previously discussed. Sounds like you are worried your therapist will somehow "side" with your mother. That's understandable, but it's more likely that your therapist will have just gained more insight and I suspect you will have an interesting discussion about it.
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Yeah, I do worry she will side with my mother. My t operates from a feminist perspective. With the males in my family being very abusive, I do not blame my mother for the things they did. I do however hold her accountable for her neglectful actions and her own parenting dysfunctions. While she was not a good parent, she was not abusive to me in the same way as the men. I worry that my t won't see the full extent of my mother's failings because it's important not to 'mother blame' in these situations.
I also worry that, in trying to be positive about the session, she will focus only on the 'good' aspects.
I guess I'll try not to predict what my t thinks and how our next session will go.
I'm just so overwhelmed with changing feelings about what was said and how my mother presented herself. My t is away until Thursday week, so I'll have to sit withtit by myself all for quite some time.