I've worked with a woman for over 10yrs. I
Most of that time been 'friends' with her. Tried to understand her situation -husband left her with 2 small children and a mortgage - but sometimes that's been hard especially when years ago I popped round her house to help with something when kids are small and her young daughter at the time, showed me a photo of her dad and the woman I work with said "Yeah your fat like him". I tried to magic that away.
Thers been more incidents since then where she martyrs herself, plays the victim, manipulates, is passive aggressive. All this I try to over look because I liked the essence of her.

But last week at work she exploded at me. I can't even look at her now. It's like the last straw broke. I keep trying to think what would T advise. I certainly don't want to be 'hooked' in by her again. I don't like to completely ignore someone, it feels childish, but it's the only way I feel I can protect myself emotionally from her manipulation, moods. I understand moods etc, but I sought help, didn't pity myself.

What would 'you' do in this situation?

I know she had many of my abusive mother's traits, but up until now, I've struggled past that.