You are looking for everything in one woman. I'm sorry but we can't all be the attentive, sexy, wife; the great cook, the loving mom and homemaker. You are like many, many, other people. I can understand your desires for it all. We make tough choices in life. I'm amazed at your wife's willingness to take you back. She is also seeing the value now in working and becoming her own woman. She will survive and will find someone else if you choose to stay where you are now. Better think seriously about who you value the most. When you decide, stick with it and make it work.