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Originally Posted by Waterbear
The new T I am seeing on a trial basis is very client led but I don't know if I am in a position to lead. It makes me feel like she isn't interested because she doesn't ask many questions, and I don't say much. I will try and talk to her about it this week because I don't think we will work together very well otherwise. I need to feel like she cares and is interested in knowing about me, my life now, my story etc but if she waits for me to talk about it we might be waiting a while because I wouldn't want to bother her with it if she doesn't want to know.
Does this resonate with anyone? Has anyone had a similar conversation with their T?
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I've had this conversation several times with my T actually. I have the same thing bothering me, I'm not very talkative, I never really know how to start the session, yet, my T almost always waits for me to talk instead of asking anything. I told him I'd rather being led by him, but he insisted that what mattered was what I wanted to talk about, not him and that it was part of his ethics, he lets the patient talk about absolutely anything and only then he starts asking questions, but I have to select and bring up the subject myslef. Although I don't really like it when I don't know what to say and just sit in silence, I actually understand this and I think most therapists do the same. And when I really think about it, I prefer that instead of being led on a subject that isn't relevant to me or has nothing to do with what I really want to say. Only us can know what to say, that is true.