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Old Apr 03, 2016, 02:26 PM
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Originally Posted by skeksi View Post
My T is client led as well. It made the beginning SO hard! I got incredibly frustrated because he wouldn't tell me what we were "supposed" to talk about. For several months we barely talked. But little by little I began finding my voice. Being in charge of what we discussed seemed less like a burden and more like my right (it is! I am paying for it!). It's been very empowering for me.

I did have to hear from T a LOT that he was okay with me being silent, that whatever I wanted to discuss was okay, etc. etc. I needed tons of reassurance.
Thankyou, I get this. I need to feel that what I have to say is worth something and that will take a lot of reassurance and time. This I got from my last T but not from this one. It is early days though and maybe I should just tell her this is what I need but I also feel like I want her to just see this in me, to show that she has an understanding of me.