My T is client centered and I've talked to her about this quite a few times. She starts out with a greeting and then silence, waiting for me to talk, to choose a topic. In the beginning it made me
incredibly anxious. I felt so much pressure to "say the right thing" and I always felt like she had some sort of expectation. Those were my insecurities... Talking about it helped. It has gotten a little easier with time, but we've also found some sort of compromise.
She now asks me how I felt after last week's session, how my week was or something similar and that's how I usually start off. It feels like a warm-up to me. It's also nice to reflect on last week's session a little. Although, after a while she does always make a point of asking what I want to focus on in this session.
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Originally Posted by Waterbear
Thankyou, I get this. I need to feel that what I have to say is worth something and that will take a lot of reassurance and time. This I got from my last T but not from this one. It is early days though and maybe I should just tell her this is what I need but I also feel like I want her to just see this in me, to show that she has an understanding of me.
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I totally understand how you wish your T could just "see" it. I feel like that quite often. In the end Ts aren't mind readers though.
Definitely tell your T about it. You can do it!
