Even the bullies on the playground do what they do for some reason. Pretty much all of them were bullied themselves. Maybe they don't know how else to relate to people - like if you're not on top you're on the bottom.

I've been a victim too, and it has hurt me, for a long time. When we hold on to that role, and those feelings, and that anger, it keeps hurting us. I'm trying to learn that, but it isn't easy. Maybe we're not ready to forgive those who hurt us for their sake just yet, especially when they haven't changed and haven't asked for forgiveness, but we need to try to let go of our anger and resentment for our own sake.

Butterflygirl, thank you for sharing your story. I hope that you will be able to love your sister in a way that allows you to heal, and eventually that she will heal also. How will you feel if your unconditional love allows her to become the sister that you always wanted?