Lyall is not alone anymore, he is not a lone protector, because you found him. You learned what makes him tick and you accepted him. I find that amazing in its own way.

Also, since he is a protector it is possible maybe he watches your life much more than you can watch his? So maybe even not making his own social contacts, he is not completely shut off?

For those saying you don't have this and that, just ignore. If what you're doing works for you, that is all you need. Also unfortunately some people on every health site pretend to have more knowledge than the rest of us, like being medical staff and so on. :/

About "coming out"... I totally understand the conflict even though I am a singleton. Maybe there is a compromise?