It's usually better after a bad marriage to spend time figuring out exactly WHO you are not in terms of another person & that is better off done alone. You want fun???? Have fun with girlfriends that you don't get yourself emotionally tangled up with. I'm sure if he was divorced that long ago, he's probably looking for more than fun & once sex gets involved it's emotional involvement whether you acknowledge it or not.

You need to get STRONG on your own & for your kids