This sounds difficult and frustrating, but what I'm about to say is only in constructive criticism, because I can see that this is painful. In my opinion, clinginess, possessiveness and fear of abandonment are detrimental to a relationship. I think by resisting the urge to beg and plead, things may improve. But understand that real love means real respect. Sounds like you love her a lot, so although it's hard, you must respect whatever decision she makes. But here's the thing: you need to think clearly about what it is you need from the relationship and what you can give, because love is about giving, as well as receiving. If you want her to stay just to avoid pain, then what will you have? One-sided relationships are always more painful and unhealthy in the long term. To avoid such a thing, ask her and really (calmly) listen to what she needs. How can you best support her? What can you do, or quit doing, to strengthen your bond? How can you clearly communicate what you need from her? When she says she doesn't feel anything when you hug and kiss this might mean (1) honeymoon phase is over, (2) that she is frustrated with you, or (3) that she needs out. The end of the honeymoon phase is an opportunity to work on a long-term relationship, it's not bad at all! But it's not easy either. If she's just upset, then you need to listen to her and find out what she needs from you. If you are ready to commit to her, then you have to commit to yourself and become more secure and able to handle your emotions. This is crucial to the repair process, but of course you should never make an empty promise just to keep her around, always follow through. I'd agree it was bad form for her to stand you up in favor of her friends. That's just rude. But I'd also agree with her that you should find some friends for yourself. This is so hard, trust me I know, but when you have multiple people that you are close to, it balances out the relationship because you're not dependent on one person which puts a lot of pressure on both of you. I can guarantee that friendships will help you feel more secure and happier. You'd have your friends, she has hers, it's healthy that you both have independent lives as people, but at the end of the day, you can come back to each other as a loving union. Best wishes to both of you, hope you find your way back!
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