Well... It depends on what you mean by 'wanting to fantasize sexually with me'. If you mean that he was interested in what your sexual fantasies were then that can indeed be something that therapists are interested in. Our sexual fantasies reveal quite a lot about our intimacy issues. If he made self disclosures about his own sexual fantasies (and I'm not sure if you meant that) then it depends on whether he was doing this with the intention to help you open up about yours (to normalise your own fantasies, in other words). With respect to the flower... Some therapists do give clients small gifts like that. The fact that he gave you a flower doesn't entail that he was trying to seduce you into bed.

I don't know whether or not he was trying to seduce you into bed because I wasn't there. But I'll admit... That I am wondering if this is a pattern that you have found in your life...

If a male is attentive to you then do you think that it must be because they are trying to seduce you into bed?

If so, then I'd say that working with a female therapist on this issue could be helpful for you.

Even if not... Given that you have interpreted two therapists as being inappropriately sexual with you (and I'm being agnostic as to whether they were inappropriately sexual with you or not)... Given that you have interpreted two therapists as being inappropriately sexual with you (and it really is of no consequence whether they were in fact or not)... It is really understandable that you would be extremely hesitent to trust a male therapist and hence... It would probably be better to work with a female therapist who has fairly strict boundaries around no touching and no gifts etc.

'Cept it might be... That it is trickier to bond with a female therapist if there are themes of competition etc....