that is absolutely true. but I don't know what are red flags versus me just being a B, I was mean to him and argued with him when he would scold me for stuff like leaving the toothpaste cap open or not cleaning the counter after I ate (he corrected/scolded me the 1st time I did that, I didn't know it was wrong) or not using a coaster, or being late to dinner one time , 15 minutes (I was taking a mock exam, he said that I should have picked a different lunch time then) etc. I'm not one to just let someone yell at me. but at the same time, what is just accepting a person the way he is? I will never know if how he was, super type A , was an actual red flag or me just seeking perfection in a man. I'm flawed too, I have issues, he tried to be with me while I studied but after it just accumulated. I just will never know if I just didn't try hard enough. I can't tell what is what. otherwise he was very nice, funny, artistic, caring, reliable. except for that.. he was so stringent.