I just don't know how to approach girls. I am really starting to believe this is something that can't be learned. I can just never think of what to say. I am not even good at thinking of things to say when I am with my friends, let alone when it is some random girl at the gym whom I have no reason to be talking to. Now I am 28 years old and I have never had any dating experience. But I still absolutely REFUSE to settle. There have been girls I have known who clearly liked me and I could have dated then, but I didn't because they weren't the ones I was interested in. I think I deserve better than to settle for someone I am not really into. I INSIST on dating the girls I really want or nobody at all. And why shouldn't I? This is what girls do.

So is it pretty much hopeless for me? Do guys like me only find a girlfriend by settling for whatever comes their way? Am I just not meant to pick and choose like other guys do?