An important question, I think: what's the alternative like?

I recognize my own tendencies towards this (maybe...or maybe it's genuine helplessness...), and I know what contempt others have for those with this trait. But seriously, what's the other option? Perfect confidence and happiness, going through life comfortably alone, racking up empty accomplishments and goals and never feeling anything negative? Because you're supposed to control all those things...but what kind of life is that?