Thanks everybody. Well I talk big but the reality is I have a huge wall built around me intimacy wise. Because of this I'm very poor at accepting attention and not turning it into a hey she loves me moment. This probably seems like insanity to people who have actually been through the relationship cycle. Much of the time I feel like I'm a twelve year old emotionally and a sixty year old physically - not a good combination. As you can tell I'm already running scared just thinking about spending serious time with somebody else. Don't get me wrong I love being solo - now that's a class I could teach. I might run this by my therapist and see if she thinks it's a good idea to ask this lady out for lunch or something. Thanks