How to Make Girls like you and Get a Girlfriend | eHow

Hi Shadix, you are not doomed, you just need to "learn" how to approach and talk to girls that you are attracted to. You are not alone with this challenge either.

There are suggestions in the link posted above, but you could do a search yourself and click on different links to see what suggestions might help.

One of the suggestions I came across was asking a girl for a favor to break the ice. I thought about how one could do that and one thing I thought of is approaching a girl that you find attractive and say, "Hi, my name is X and I am wondering if you could help me with something. I need to get a gift for "name a female, mother, sister, friend" and I am notoriously at a loss so, I thought I would ask for some suggestions. You could even ask the girl what a good perfume would be to get a female you are trying to get a gift for and where to go to find it.

You could go on to say, "Well, I am 28 now, and chuckle a bit and say, I think I need to learn how to develop some talents for gift shopping which is something I have avoided. Don't get me wrong it's not that I don't care, I have just been busy with college and then name some things you "have" been doing. That can open a door to this girl talking about what college she has attended or what she has been busy with in her life. Girls typically love to talk about themselves, and if this girl does open up a bit, make sure you look "interested" in whatever she talks about "what she is in to".

If you happen to see an attractive girl at a gym for example, if you can get near her in some kind of workout, you can make sure you have a bag with you, set it down and ask her if she would watch it while you quickly run to the restroom. Then exit and wait a few minutes and come back expressing gratitude that she agreed to help you. Then you can say, "Thanks, oh, by the way, my name is X, what is your name, and she says, Y and then repeat her name, "well, X, thank you for watching my bag for me", hope I did not interupt your workout routine.

If you see a group of girls, and one that you are attracted to, you could approach the "group" with a question about perfumes as a gift. Now, if the other girls answer and not the one you are attracted to, that is ok, allow this girl to see that you are intently listening to the answers her friends give you. And you can begin to ask their names, try to remember their names and repeat them, and see if this girl offers hers, then repeat hers, and say, well X, what perfume do you like to use and where do I find it. See if you can have some way of writing it down. Then you can say, "well, the one thing I did manage to come up with is perfume, but I am at a loss after that and maybe these girls can offer some additional ideas. Perhaps as the conversation moves forward you can laugh at how much you don't know, yet you do so want to learn.

You can even add in that the perfume might be for a female boss which can bring the conversation towards work that these girls can begin to talk about too.

So, often the best way to break the ice is to ask "advise" or a favor of somekind. Remember the names given to you and instead of boasting about yourself, put some things in about yourself, but, be most respective to whatever the girl adds to the conversation and learn to keep her talking about "her".

It's just something you have "yet" to learn.