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Old Apr 05, 2016, 04:02 PM
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Originally Posted by lelouch1205 View Post
Is it the one that the title starts with "The client's guide to CBT?" From your experience is it actually good and worth getting and what's kind of the gist of what the book aims to do for you? I mean I'm not much of a reader, but I would still try it if I think it will help.
Yes, that's the book. The book is easy to read and seems to have some good ideas. At first, I thought that it was a lot of fluffy B.S., but then I began to see that some of it made sense. I want to read it again to see if I get more a second time. The main thing I took is that the words we use to describe things in our heads create visual images that can condition an emotional response over time. Pucci gave the example of a wife who always described her husband as a "dirty rat" and she gradually began to react to him as if he really was a big, smelly, disgusting rodent. It's important to observe the words we think in situations and make sure that they are accurate, because parts of our brain and body take our words literally - even when we are simply exaggerating. I have problems getting along with my brother, and I find myself cringing and becoming irritated and angry every time I see his face. In my case, I had continually told myself that the reason I am working in our family business is to help my brother. I have felt very bitter about this duty to family, and gradually I conditioned myself so that my brother's face became a symbol of that duty. That is why seeing my brother makes me upset. It helps to know why I feel these emotions, but it is still hard to correct.