Title pretty much says it: wife hates me for not disciplining my child (her stepchild), but when she does the disciplining, it looks pretty violent and scary, and over the past year and a half it hasn't done ANYTHING positive for my child. I know I'm scared, I know my child is scared, and the child's behavior doesn't change. Wife has "had enough" every week now for the past several months and she wants a separation, and maybe a divorce. I'm so sick of being scared for my child that I'm thinking divorce is not a bad idea despite the fact that I do still love my wife and it's going to be very very very lonely and scary--in fact, my least favorite way to be. But I'm pretty sure it's going to be better for my child.