Hi Lunella,

Good on you for ditching those people and being so strong and mature at such a young age! I admire you!
The fact they came to see me means very little than that they they felt they should. My son spent a lot of time discussing various things that might relieve him of any "burden" in the future such as are there any men in my life. I do have a close male friend of 8 years standing but it is purely platonic and there is no way that's going to change.
I do have other friends and am a member of various groups. I don't sit at home watching daytime TV! But I already do have mental health problems and yes, I do sometimes feel extremely lonely. But as I think clairerobin said my motto is "having no relationship is better than having a bad relationship" and on good days I can see many positives to my single life. I remember once asking a Catholic priest about celibacy and his reply was "Well from what I hear marriage can be far from wonderful". Loneliness is a state of mind and it can be changed.
Thanks for replying.