My husband has a habit of fiddling with his phone or any object near him. He turns it over and over and rubs the corners and I have spoken to him about this but I guess I have to see that he really is doing it unconsciously. Sometimes, I have felt like he was doing it to bug me and that really creates pain because that would be a really mean thing but he says no that he doesn't even realize that he is doing it. It is so hard for me to understand that someone could be doing all that with their hand and yet have no realization or control over it. I sometimes do things like pull on my hair or bite on my finger to try to control thoughts and pains but I sure know that I am doing it. I unfortunately have allowed this to get to me but that is because of the inner belief that he is doing this because it bothers me but a greater peace comes when I believe that these are not conscious moves but as I have read unconscious ways to relieve tensions, or stimulate the senses. It is distracting to me when we are trying to watch tv together and there he is just fiddling and fiddling. I have tried stopping him but not much works. I haven't been watching much tv with him thinking it would be less painful but it is lonesome and devisive. I wish I could just accept it and remember he is just doing it to do it.