I've actually always wanted to buzz my hair down...just because I have a curiosity about how bumpy my skull is, and I sorta think I might pull it off, haha. I haven't done it yet, instead I keep my hair in a very short pixie...I have a rather androgynous look about me but I have never felt more like "me" since I got this haircut. I had long hair for so long, but never liked it. It didn't feel right, it didn't look right to me, I pulled it back into a pony tail *every day* because I hated dealing with it...so I'm glad I chopped it, finally.
I hope you're able to stop obsessing about it and that lower maintenance hair will allow you to focus on other things

. It takes confidence to cut your hair short as a woman - don't sell yourself short.